Welcome to the MM Listserv!
No matter how you got here, we think you'll find this is the most compassionate, diverse, caring, flexible, and non-judgmental group of people ever. We're also funny and smart, and most of us don't like to be told what to do.
Some of us have been here for years. Some, like you, are brand new. And some of us step off the list for a period of time, then return to the fold when it feels right. The only common denominator is that we are not satisfied with our relationship with alcohol, and we want to do something about it.
We are a group of equals, so the minute you "stepped through the door" of MM you became just as valued and important as everyone else. Belonging to MM is all about making good choices. We're glad you've chosen to join us!
This welcome letter contains useful information about how to get started as well as tips to help you get the most you can from your time here. You might want to save and/or print this message so you can refer back to it.
At any time of day or night, 365 days a year, you and all MM Listserv members can send emails ("posts") which can be read by every other MM'er ("posting to the list"). The MM community is a place to share our experiences and thoughts, to give each other encouragement and support, and sometimes just to be around other people who understand what it's like to face the real-world challenges of managing our drinking.
Setting Up Your MM Email
You probably want to set up a separate email just for the MM Listserv. Using your regular email for the list can have two complications. (See NOTE below).
First is privacy. We have not had problems in the past with members’ email addresses being used for nefarious purposes, but since our subject matter can be misunderstood by others, it’s better to err on the side of caution. You can even set up an anonymous email account (or at least somewhat anonymous) by searching on the internet how to do it.
The second reason is for ease of use. Sometimes the sheer volume of emails whirling around can be a little overwhelming. A separate MM Listserv email means you can look at it only when you want to, and your inbox doesn’t get jammed full.
Your MM Listserv account can be set to send mail with any name you choose; subscribers are reminded that they probably should not use their real names when posting to the Listserv.
If you originally signed up with a name or address you'd prefer to keep
private, just go to http://www.moderation.org/online/listserv.html, and
1) unsubscribe your private address and
2) subscribe again with your new address.
Managing Your Email
You may receive your MM email in either REGULAR or DIGEST options. With the REGULAR option, you'll receive individual posts as soon as they're sent. This is what most people use and is the best option if you want to dive right in. If you choose the DIGEST option you'll receive one long email containing about 25 messages either once a day or a few times each day (depending on list volume).
See the Online Groups page for the Listserv Management Form (VERY SIMPLE), and a collection of user guides and other materials:
Will my posts show up somewhere else?
We periodically survey searches on Google to check that list messages are not being copied anywhere outside our systems. We also check other services. (Yahoo, MSN, etc.) To date, we have found NO evidence that any Listserv messages or archives are being indexed by any search engine. In other words, list messages are not “google-able.”
How the MM Listserv Email Works
SENDING EMAIL TO THE LIST
You can only send messages to MMLIST from a subscribed email account. Be sure you are on an email account that matches your subscription.
To create a NEW email that will go to the whole list
SENDING A REPLY TO THE LIST
To send a REPLY to a post that will go to the whole list
Problems? Email your
questions to: firstname.lastname@example.org
AN INTRODUCTION: After you've signed up, we’d love to meet you and get to know you. You can send an introductory email to the list, and we guarantee you that you will be welcomed with open arms. Sometimes folks like to just hang out and listen in for awhile, and that is absolutely okay too. Do what feels right for you.
EMAIL THREADS: Most people have their email organized into threads, which makes it easy to follow conversations. One thing to note is that if you have an important question or an introduction or a request, it’s best to start a new post or thread. Sometimes a heartfelt ask for help is posted as a reply to the daily Sticky or another long thread, and it might not get the attention it deserves. And if no one answers, sing out again! This is not a place you need to hide.
POSTING LIMITS: No single post can be over 20K in size (which also means no attachments), and MM limits the total number of posts from each member to no more than 20 posts in any one day.
WHAT ABOUT MISTAKES? Don't be the least bit concerned about making mistakes in spelling or grammar or composition. This isn't a contest and nobody is grading you!
OFF-TOPIC POSTS: Almost any topic is OK to discuss, but if it clearly has NOTHING to do with drinking (like sharing a good joke or Aunt Mildred's pie recipe) then please put "OT" in the subject line. Avoid topics that could easily lead to controversy (such as conversations about politics or religion). MM’s focus is on our common struggle with over drinking, and our personal beliefs shouldn’t get in the way of this.
POSTING ETIQUETTE. Be honest, but be respectful. It's OK to be direct - we're all adults here - but it's NOT OK to attack or belittle another MM member. Profanity is discouraged--be creative or use asterisks. We encourage you to refer to our User Policy
Misuse of the MM email list
is rare. However, if you receive any emails addressed only to you that are
asking for money, enticing you to join other non-MM groups, or any other
inappropriate solicitations, please report it to email@example.com
COMMONLY USED TERMS
We use a fair number of abbreviations, acronyms and MM made up words. Here is a list, but the list is always evolving. If you don’t understand something, just sing out.
On the http://www.moderation.org/online/listserv.html page you can choose to
temporarily go "No Mail" while you're on vacation or just want to
stop receiving MM email f or a while. You can change your subscription back to
REGULAR or DIGEST delivery whenever you want to begin receiving MM email again.
To unsubscribe and leave MM: Go to http://www.moderation.org/online/listserv.html, enter your email address under "To un-subscribe:" then click on [UNSUBSCRIBE - Leave the MM Listserv]. You will need to respond to an email confirmation.
have questions about how MM works, or how others have handled certain drinking
issues, or pretty much ANY question or comment about almost anything you can
think of, POST IT TO THE LIST. You may be surprised to find out that there are
many others who have gone through, and are STILL dealing with, situations very
much the same as your own.
This isn't just "the" MM list, this is *YOUR* MM list... Welcome!
From the MM Welcome Message Team (Kurt, Mary and a couple of MM helper elves)
The Moderation Management Email Directory:
That pretty much covers the MM Listserv. For more information about MM, useful info, and cool tips and tricks, read on. With all the extra time you’ll have on your hands since you won’t be drinking as much, you can also explore the full MM website. ☺
VALUABLE RESOURCES ON THE MM WEBSITE
The FAQ page is highly recommended. It is packed full of advice and experiences of successful MM'ers. Go to: http://www.moderation.org/faq/
The "Recommended Reading" page has lots of book listings and links and
ordering information. (If you order a book or anything else through the Amazon
or Barnes & Noble links on this page, MM will receive a small percentage of
the price.) The books page is here:
MM Forum (http://forum.moderation.org) - message board:
Public - Inspirational testimonial and keeper posts viewable without login/password:
Private - Interact with others also on the MM path (login & password required), lower traffic than MMlist (listserv).
Register at http://forum.moderation.org/register.php using "Janet" as the secret name.
MM Steps of Change (http://www.moderation.org/about_mm/steps_of_change.html): This 11 pages PDF document is available free of charge and is essentially a condensed version of the 200+ page Responsible Drinking book (see below).OTHER GREAT STUFF
For a DRINKING DEPENDENCE QUESTIONNAIRE:
For a GUIDE to MODERATION and WORKSHEETS to record daily drinks and other changes: http://www.moderation.org/about_mm/steps_of_change.html
Want to find a THERAPIST who'll support moderate drinking? http://members.moderation.org/therapists/MM ABSTAR
A common question is "what should I do first or next?" There are no "shoulds" here. There's no right or wrong way. You're on a journey, and the only one who can decide where you're headed and how you might best get there is YOU! But here are some great suggestions:
Just thinking about change is a good starting place.
You've already signed up to this list, so you've already done the first best thing for yourself!
Gather information. Make small changes; "baby steps."
Changing your drinking habits doesn't happen all at once.
Hang out on the list. Read, write, and absorb.
Post to the list.
Focus your motivation to change. Write it down.
Get *Responsible Drinking* (order online: http://www.moderation.org/readings/books.html
Start recording your daily/weekly drinking.
If you're a daily drinker, start putting a no-drinking day into your week.
Start cutting down the number of drinks in any one day, even if just a little.
did we mention posting to the list?
Need to contact MM admin
with any other questions?